Updated: Nov 13, 2021
Dear Andy,
I have a friendship that is draining me. How do I end it?
Sincerely,
Frustrated
Dear Frustrated,
First, be sure you want to end the friendship and not fix it. It is possible that a quiet conversation between the two of you might resolve the problem. Open up to your friend and tell them what is bothering you. If they are a true friend, you can work out most any problem.
If you are done with the whole situation and just want to get on with your life, you can handle the problem a couple of different ways. You can slowly back away from the friendship, spending less and less time with the other person. Eventually, they should get the message.
However, this is my preferred method: just end it like ripping off a Band-Aid. Do it fast and you are done with it and can move on. Tell them politely that although you have enjoyed the friendship over the years, you have outgrown it, that you find you do not have the same interest any longer, or that you just need to simplify your life and are removing any stress from it.
No matter how you decide to handle it, it will be difficult. Your friend probably will not understand or want the friendship to end. Stay strong and keep your resolve. Remember, your mental health is what is important.
As always, I, Andy, am here to help with your everyday problems. Navigating personal relationships can be taxing especially to your own mental health. Just remember to stay true to yourself and most things will work out for the best.
If you want honest advice to any problem, issue, or question, let me help. I’m a local resident with a sociology degree from Georgia Southern. Send your problems to askandy571@gmail.com and I will help you solve them!